And Playing The Role Of Herself .
Caidence Harris has finally made it in Hollywood and is happy with her steady gig playing a detective and sidekick on 9th Precinct, a popular police procedural. Sometimes she has to share her trailer with Robyn Ward, a model turned actress who sometimes plays a defense attorney on the show. If she could just stop blushing and giggling and generally making a fool out of herself every time Robyn is around, life would be so much easier. After all, Robyn is straight and involved with tennis superstar, Josh Riley.
And Playing the Role of Herself .
Playing the victim (also known as victim playing, victim card, or self-victimization) is the fabrication or exaggeration of victimhood for a variety of reasons such as to justify abuse to others, to manipulate others, a coping strategy, attention seeking or diffusion of responsibility. A person who repeatedly does this is known as a "professional victim".
Manipulators often play the victim role ("woe is me") by portraying themselves as victims of circumstances or someone else's behavior in order to gain pity or sympathy or to evoke compassion and thereby get something from someone. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering, and the manipulator often finds it easy and rewarding to play on sympathy to get cooperation.[3]
The language of "victim playing" has entered modern corporate life, as a potential weapon of all professionals.[6] To define victim-players as dishonest may be an empowering response;[7] as too may be awareness of how childhood boundary issues can underlie the tactic.[8]
Transactional analysis distinguishes real victims from those who adopt the role in bad faith, ignoring their own capacities to improve their situation.[9] Among the predictable interpersonal "games" psychiatrist Eric Berne identified as common among by victim-players are "Look How Hard I've Tried" and "Wooden Leg".[10]
Chance is played by Peter Sellers, an actor who once told me he had "absolutely no personality at all. I am a chameleon. When I am not playing a role, I am nobody.'' Of course, he thought himself ideal for this role, which comes from a novel by Jerzy Kosinski. Sellers plays Chance as a man at peace with himself. When the old man dies, the household is broken up and Chance is evicted, there is a famous scene where he is confronted by possible muggers, and simply points a channel changer at them, and clicks. He is surprised when they do not go away.
DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF!! You are playing into the problem. It is not you, they have an intense need for attention, sounds like, especially from males. Raise your head up and let that shit go. You can not change them or help them. They HAVE to help themselves or want help and even recognize that they need help.
A recent eg. Of a victim I receive a message from mommie dearest Meet me at this cafe 1 oclock I turned up on time she wasnt there. I rang her 6 times no answer finally Oh she says what time is it? I said 20 past 1. She then said she forgot and left the phone in the car she then handed the phone over to my father and I heard her say tell her to forget it. I left in the freezing pouring rain to get there on time so then I go home annoyed. That night I get a message on my phone sternly saying my behaviour on the phone was appalling and I was extremely rude. I swear all I said was have you forgotten in an annoyed voice I did not swear or raise my voice that was 2 weeks ago she has now shut me out and refuses to answer my calls. The only way me and my family can speak to my nice father is through her phone he doesnt own one and she had the wall phone disconnected 2 yrs ago. So by not answering shes also stopped my communication with my father who has been very ill and has had a serious operation. Because I have to call her to speak to him. She declined her only grandaughters wedding invitation because she once liked her fiance but later changed her mind. We were not over the moon about him but we went she is my twin brothers daughter. My brother will never speak to her again he was devastated because she stopped our father from going to his grandaughters wedding also. Then after the wedding she cried and drained the life out of me with her emotions it dragged me down listening and I got sick. I listened and now realise she gained support from me and then later set me up for abuse. I felt emotionally used by my own mother did she feel bad when her son was taking his daughter down the isle knowing her grandparents declined her own wedding. Not at all she cried after that about herself a victim.
Have seen the person who has made a career out of being a victim. She manages to present as a needy, fragile person who we should care for, but is in fact highly manipulative and dangerous. She comes to church, the good Christians want to help her, but they end up the victims. Clergy and other pastorally inclined persons are sitting ducks for this woman. She has wrecked various groups in the church. People have left the church after getting their fingers burnt. Those who refuse to deal with her are branded unChristian and lacking in compassion. She will not accept responsibility for herself. Is a very convincing operator, some of the most experienced counsellors have been fooled by her. At the moment I am trying to get over the games she played on me, but I have been branded as unforgiving. This victim syndrome has been learned over a long time.She is a very selfish and self centred person who expects people to run after her, is quick to point out the short comings in others and lacks compassion for anyone else.
My gf really plays the victim all the time . Our relationship is still fresh and we are still learning a lot about each other . Recently we had a argument about something she said to a guy at a party reflecting our relationship and how she sees it . She told him we are only talking and not much else . Keep in mind we are in a relationship and she 100% does know this . I believe she does this to get other males attention as well as making me a bit jealous . When I confronted her about this she immediately got mad at me and completely turned the situation making herself the victim . I really did try and speak to her in a calm and mannered way but that did not quite work out . In the end I was the one who apologised for the whole situation . I need to know how to handle these types of situations so that she understands that something upsets me . She went through a hard time before we met and I know this .I love her very much . How do I handle her sudden outbreaks and our arguments ?
This article of playing the victim is my ex wife down to the T!I have been with my wife for 9 years for the first 5 years I endured her emotions and her drinking and heavy smoking, which resulted in her leaving me accusing me of abusing her, in fact all I did was to push her away as she tried to attack my daughter, whom she phoned to come to our place unknown to me!We got back after 3 months separation and got married a year later against family and friends advice!The marriage was in its self very good.But we had a very petty argument which resulted in our emotions clashing, hers was due to be physically assaulted and abused in her first marriage and she had all her money taken in her second marriage and he played around with other women and she was used by several men which she initially was happy to do.She left me and catastrophise everything to all she went to. her family supported her lies and I even got a Police Harassment Notice for a year, due to her family being contacted by me, as I wanted to save out marriage!Her Solicitor controlled and manipulated her, but she allowed it to happen as it made her playing the victim feel good, he even said I had an Abuse Order when I did not and the Police Data Protection proved that and the whole divorce petition was all lies!I still love my wife, but common sense says I should let her go and move on, but hard to do when really the argument was so petty and divorce should not have happened!!Mike Moses
Shanann Watts constantly played the victim to control her husband, and others, and for attention. She lied and greatly exaggerated circumstances, to get her husband to take her side, against his family, constantly alienating him from his family. Her behavior was also that of someone with Munchausen disorder, and Munchausen By Proxy disorder, which is similar to her other controlling and victim behaviors. This article describes her victim playing traits perfectly.
When Richard Nixon lost the California gubernatorial election in 1962, he had his well-known quote, "You won't have Nixon to kick around anymore...I hope that what I have said today will at least make television, radio, the press recognize that they have a right and a responsibility, if they're against a candidate give him the shaft, but also recognize if they give him the shaft, put one lonely reporter on the campaign who'll report what the candidate says now and then." Note that both Trump and Nixon both attacked and played the role of victim with the press.
Many of these same concepts were to form the core of 17th century English gender dynamics. During the time of Shakespeare and the reigns of Queen Elizabeth I and King James I, English ideas of sex and gender, the legal rights of women and the social expectations of femininity all played a significant role in the way that theatre was performed, the stories it told and who told them. In addition to other legal restrictions on the rights of women, there was considerable social pressure on women to behave according to specific social roles. Women were expected to be subservient, quiet and homebound, with their primary ambitions entirely confined to marriage, childbirth and homemaking; granted, social status and economic class played into what degree these expectations manifested, with the chief example being Queen Elizabeth I herself.
To have a greater understanding of why the practice of young men playing women was an accepted convention in Elizabethan England, and why women were legally restricted from the stage, it is helpful to examine contemporary concepts of gender. There were two central influences in the way that sex and gender were constructed in Early Modern England: medicine and religion. Medical science of the time relied heavily upon the work of Greek and Roman philosophers like Plato, Hippocrates and Galen among many others, to understand and treat the human body. This medical tradition held that female humans were essentially incomplete or unfinished males; a phenomenon caused by a lack of heat that would have otherwise resulted in the formation of male genitalia. It followed that women were understood as being weaker, more prone to psychological and physical ailment and in need of supervision, control and at times restraint by the one true sex, men. 041b061a72